It is with a heavy heart that I am bringing some sad news.
I’ve had word that phlegmmy has passed away. I knew that things were very bad when he phoned
me at the end of March. He had been quite ill since last summer.
I know that we were all concerned and were hoping for a different outcome. He was our friend
and he will be sorely missed.
“Friends make us a community.” ~ one of phlegmmy’s acros.
Farewell, dear friend… you will remain in our hearts.
He’ll be missed by many, and was truly a good person. Farewell, p – rest in peace.
Wow, I am shocked.
I had no idea he was even sick 😦 My thoughts and condolences for all his family, friends and
anyone that was close to him.
Seems we are losing many people these past few years. Maybe higher powers are just taking
them home, so they can await the rest of us and welcome up when we are also ready to go home.
My friend, ((((Phlegmmy))).
I’m so sad. Sad for Phlegmmy. Sad for us. Sad for the world, because he truly made it a better
place. My feelings go so much deeper than my words.
Those damn paper cuts!
I’m so sorry to hear this Janie, he was a great guy and will be sorely missed.
It never failed, I’d log into AC on a WNAL night and I couldn’t even escape into a room without a
pm from the dolphin fan to the bills fan. He liked to tease me about the “Toronto Bills”. At least
he got to see his precious Dolphins play in Toronto last year.
My heart is heavy knowing that he’s gone and I realize that he was so much closer to many of you.
You all have my deepest sympathy.
Goodbye Phlegmmy, you were a great friend.
Such sad news … We will miss u ((( P ))) 😦
Phlegmmy will be missed by many, WNA just won’t be the same without him.
(((((((((( Paul ))))))))))
Phlegmmy, a one of a kind man. Already missed on Earth, but I can assure
you, he’s already making the “next stop” a better place.
My condolences to all who are hurting.
This is devastating news to hear about such a special person on and off
the acro-field. His creativity, sense of humor, wisdom and kindness will be missed. He is and
always will be in my heart. God bless.
I’m very sorry to hear of P’s passing. He was a wonderful friend to very
many people here. To all of P’s friends and family I’m very sorry for your loss. Acro will certainly
not be the same.
One of the finest people I ever met RIP P
I came here to share my sadness with our online community. I knew
something wasn’t right when he hadn’t been in contact with Janie, and now our worst fears are
realized. He went away from us quietly, leaving a loud implosion in his passing from our little
acro world. When he was here he filled my heart with laughter and my head with thought provoking
comments, and his committment to this game and its players will probably never be realized by
anyone else. I know you’re okay now, p, but we’ll miss you while we tarry on without you.
I just have no words and typing thru the tears is too hard. RIP my dear friend.
(((((( Phlegmmy, my friend ))))))
You will continue to share a special place in my heart, along with Phowle, who I hope is welcoming
you now to the peace and love of the next world.
I always respected you and liked you personally – you were like a brother to so many of us,
including me. I will miss your balance and perspective and incredible heart.
Sorry to hear about this. 😦
A great fellow.. had no idea that things were that bad.. He has joined
a great group in the next adventure and I have no doubts that Kala was at the door to greet him…..
RIP. He will be missed by many. Condolences on all of your loss who were
close to him, his family and his friends. And yes, first person I thought of was Kala. She’s there
to greet him.
PM I’ll too heartbroken to find the right words. We have truly lost a dear,
dear friend. It’s strange how you can love someone you never even met.
😉 Now p could tell us what that sign on the pearly gates really does say.
I’m pretty sure it’s not anything I’ve read in here… but it could be!
I simply have no words- still in shock…. 😦
RIP Green One
What a shock, and how very sad! The loss of one of our Acro friends
always reminds us what a community we’ve become. When I first started playing Acro on the
Bezerk site, it struck me how the folks in the chatbox really cared about each other like a family.
That kept me coming back to the game where “Sometimes you gotta go where everybody knows
Over the years we’ve lost several Acro friends, but maybe no one who transcended groups,
teams and formats as well as phlegmmy. He has so many friends here. I’m grateful to him for
establishing WNA and I hope it will continue as a tribute to him. I hope his family and “real life”
friends can be cheered by knowing how much his online community cared for him. I’ll be missing
his “suzi!” when I come into the room.
Has anybody here seen my old friend Paul –
Can you tell me where he’s gone?
He freed a lot of people, but it seems the good, they die young
But I just looked around and he’s gone.
In shock and so sad. He was a special friend and I’ll miss him so much
(((((((((( you ))))))))))))
I haven’t signed on here in ages, but after hearing about P, I had to come
in and share why I thought he was such a great person. P was always so kind to me…..
he sent me the most uplifting private messages, mailed me an angel to hold onto for when I was
scared, he was truly inspirational. I just read all of our messages and I’m heartbroken that the
world lost such a GOOD person. He was the persona of a gentleman. RIP ((((P))))))
You will be sorely missed by those that loved you.
Here is a small part of what he wrote to me back in 2009:
So my friend, you are never forgotten. I’m just dancing as fast as i can….
Hi everyone… I too haven’t logged on here since I can remember when
and sadly heard about P via FB. We hadn’t talked for quite awhile, but we sure did a lot of talking
over the years. P was so helpful in getting our BDK help when she was so very ill years ago.
He was also there with huge support when we lost Mishka. A very caring guy for sure…
We didn’t always agree but he always gave me the opportunity to express my opinion,
and sometimes we just agreed to disagree. So sorry to hear of his passing and I feel for
you many friends who will miss him dearly.
(((((phlegmmy)))) I just have no words to express how I feel. Missing you.
((((((((((( P ))))))))))))
In a true tribute to the man you are, perhaps no one but you will understand, but that was the
greatness of the friendship we shared between us.
Our friendship was the true testament that two people can be at the opposite side of just about
every major issue there is to debate in the world, and yet have so much mutual respect for each
other that said friendship would transcend every imaginable barrier there ever was. From the
beginning I knew you were someone so worthwhile to know that we had to circumvent the hiccups
of electrical impulses and fragile internet connections to hone a deep and personal connection
that I know we both have cherished.
You will be missed, my friend. No doubt that you, Painpill, and Kala are working on forming
Heaven’s first Acro league. If you choose to go with the Ladders format, make one long enough
so those of us who still stand in your awe may climb up and visit from time to time, until we are
called up to play. Farewell, my friend, until we meet again.
This is so sad, he was so lovely. Love to you phlegmmy xxx
I know P probably wouldnt want to hear from me since we werer always
butting heads and arguing, but it doesnt change the fact, that he made a big impact in our acro
world and loved by many i just wish he and i coulda mended our fences n been friends.. This is
majorally shocking news..my thoughts n prayers to his family n friends everywhere…
i had knnow idea anything was wrong..wow!! well as a few of u have pointed out hes in good
company, hes got fabbys gimpy, Weaseldik aka bobby is up there,sunflower, and theres soo many
more..yall know them better than i..
Sad a very kind smart soul had to leave us…. God Bless
Very sad to hear this. He will be missed and was loved by many. 😦
P and I had a couple of ups and downs but were able to respect each
other’s opinion at the end of the day.. I sincerely hope there is acro in the next world.. I’m sure
he has already joined the group… Sad loss for the game and these boards..
I am Shocked and very saddend to here that our dear friend Phlemmy
Has passed. I am crying as I type this. I did not know he was even ill. He always had great and
kind things to say and brought a lot of great things to acro. I will miss you you P. My thoughts are
with his friends and family.
Just heard the sad news and wanted to give my condolences. He was an
extraordinary person and I think he touched everyone he had contact with in a positive way.
such sad news..i cant even imagine acro without p….p was a good friend to so many people….
will be missed by many….so many of the good ones goin these days….just doesnt seem right…
janie when i think of p one of the first things that comes to mind is darren…. he wanted people to
know that he mattered so badly… ill never forget how he went out each dec to make some small
difference on that day and to tell people who darren was and that it mattered to someone….
just doesnt seem fair….
RIP my friend….
I heard right before class tonight from skinnymubby. Couldn’t believe it 😦
RIP my friend
I was thinking the same thing
I believe Dec. 2
Paul matters, always will. He changed who I am just by being him. We are all so lucky to have
I have no words that express the depth of my sadness.
I cannot even explain the pain Im in right now with the news of this tragedy.
Im laying the Steelers “dish towel” down for you P along side your Dolphins. I pray you are at
peace now.. the same kind you gave so much of us here at one time or another.
God Bless you my friend.
I saved this PM; it always makes me smile. That he was probably laughing
at me for something like not reading the classics is besides the point:
8/27/2011 7:39:00 PM
ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha
this is the most I’ve laughed in a long long time
I type this with tear stained cheeks. I was texted earlier today by a friend
I never even knew Paul was sick. I am very shocked and upset, as Paul was one of the very
few people around here or in real life that could get to me on my basic level. He and I became
friends a few years ago one night while playing and speaking of departed loved ones. We had the
fact that our mothers had both passed on. We talked about how we each dealt with it and how it
had impacted our lives.
I told him the only thing I knew about losing a loved one was that the devastating amount of pain
we who live through it have never changes, just that we as humans learn to cope with it better.
He loved that piece of wisdom because I had put into words what he felt in his heart. Now Paul my
friend, I have to go through it all over again losing you. I will miss your wisdom and sense of humor
in private messages we shared.
I love you my friend and I look forward to seeing you again one day. Just please leave me a seat
at the Live-Acro table.
A letter from Paul the day after my father passed last year.
3/27/2011 10:23:00 AM
My best to you and yours RD
It’s another process eh?
You’ll work your way through it.
Straight and to the point, I loved that about you Paul.
Paul’s last letter to me. I had written him letting him know that despite our political/social view
differences, I respected him greatly that he and I never once let it seep into our friendship.
3/23/2012 7:14:00 PM
Despite our bumps in the road I agree with that RD.
I appreciate that I can disagree and it has no impact on other things like our friendship beyond
Even though we, your friends, who are left behind are grieving and crying so much, I am glad
you get to be with you mom once again Paul. Please say hi to our other dear Acro friends in
paradise as well………
(((((P)))))) you were a ray of sunshine in so many lives on here..
you will be missed greatly. I am so sad. Got to know you a whole lot more the past few months
and you are a wonderful person inside and out. Rest in peace. We will all miss you very much. 😦
WNA will never be the same.
So sorry to hear this. My condolences to his family and friends.
Wow that really sucks, RIP Phleg, Weaseldik, Kala. And anyone i havent
mentioned, Phleg was a huge part if te A/C community 😦 thoughts & prayers to friends &
I don’t even know what to say…
I came by the message board a few weeks back, maybe it was a month ago and I noticed
there wasn’t one post from him, in any form–struck me as odd. Wish I’d taken the time to
drop him a message.
A wonderful man and great game player, we’re all better for knowing him 🙂
Love you Paul.
Phleg was the heart and soul of this game…I have a special needs son and
Phleg always…..always asked me how Jordan was doing…..I am so heartbroken over his passing,
he will so be missed…
I am so very very sad to hear this….and wouldn’t have had I not seen Mubbys
FB post…P was never less than kind and respectful to me…((((((((((Phleggy)))))))))) you will be
So sad; condolences to his family and all that knew him.
I came by to see if this was all some cosmic bad dream…
I know this is the 3rd thread in relation to Phlegmmy, but there sooo many
people out there who havent had a chance to send their condolences n well wishes & thoughts &
Feelings.. soo feel free to leave a message If you are one of the people who just heard this sad
Thanks, Amys… and thank you to everyone who filled the second thread
with their condolences and memories of phlegmmy.
I’ve played acro ever since the Bezerk days and there was always a phlegmmy playing. It just
doesn’t seem right that we will have to go on without him.
The number of posts here is testament to how important he was to so many people. He cared
about everyone and made it a point to show his concern.
His passing has left a huge void in my life.
Well I’ve cried all nite. But I want to say this…so many people look at this
site like……well its just a game we play. But these are real people and some of us have even
met one another. I have been playing acro for many years and have met several players myself.
So when one of our own passes, it hurts. And as I stated on the MB last nite, Phleg always asked
me how my son was doing, it didnt matter what day it was, what time it was, if he saw me he would
private me and ask me that. I pray for his family’s peace during this difficult time, because if he
affected us in this way, I can only imagine how much they are missing him now…..I love you phleg
your welcome janie, as i mentioned before, Phlegmmy and i had our
arguements, fuss n fights, and unfortunatly were never able to resolve those, I woulda loved it had
we been able to straighten out our differences, and loved to be a part of “phelgmmys world of
friends”, yes he made a HUGE impact on everyone, I started playin acro in bezerk as well…
as for he and i not gettin along, Im hoping to make things up to him now, i just hope its not too little
to late, thats why i started another thread as well..just to show that i do care, and have a good
heart, im sending you janie your own special prayers n thoughts..
and Kate, that was beautifully said..
I still cry when I think about him. I started playing WNA because it was the
only time I got to play acro with him. I thought he had a brilliant mind and I was amazed at the way
he acroed.. he was my mentor and my inspiration. I am soooo going to miss his PMs in WNA
lol’ing at my acros. He told me that the funniest acro I did was when the topic was “Something you
shouldn’t say to your lover in bed” letters were HSCW and my acro was “Holy Shit Cat Woman”.
I did that acro last year and the last time we spoke he had mentioned that.. so it’s stuck in my mind.
sigh… what really sucks is not being able to say “Good-Bye”
Paul, his Love eventually grabbed me. Miss you!
its not a cosmic bad dream, Aip.
I sit here making acros, thinking I was all cried out.
Phlegmmy, he left earth gently, meracious minded, young.
Me Or Yoo?
Phlegmmy and I had several online fights, disagreements, and conflicts in the
acro world. We clashed because we were total opposites. He was in charge of his emotions and
was very logical. I was (and still am) A loose cannon.
In his own way, he always tried to help me. I was too much of a self absorbed jerk to listen to him
before I was banned.
One thing I remember was how he actually listened to my apology and accepted it. (check the
He was a fair man and only wanted what was best for the acro community.
It’s crazy how I’m able to log back in on this site the same day I heard the news of his passing…
I always respected you.
I totally hear you, McQ. I understand his need to remove himself from online
life and focus on his immediate situation. Still it makes me sad. This sudden departure from our
lives is so hard and not being able to say good-bye sucks!
My brain keeps tripping and my mouth keeps trying to form words I want him to hear. And I cycle
again thru the loss.
I know if he had said he was ill, all of you would have rallied to support him.
I know he knew it too. But he just wasn’t that kind of person. He was the guy people leaned on,
not the guy who leaned on others.
I think we all feel a strong desire to support our friend, be there for him when he’s in need and
show how much his friendship means to us. And he was just gone too quick for us to do it.
There is a void and it’s tough to take.
However, your feelings and friendship were so important to him, he wanted his time with you
to be about that friendship and not about his illness. He wanted the times you shared to continue
as normal so he kept his condition out of it. I don’t know it that helps a whole lot at this point but I
hope it will help over time.
damnit Rainy.. you made me cry again.
That was so beautifully put!
…thanks McQ, you just made me cry too!
/me shares her kleenex with McQ
how do i emoticon a watery smile? there must be a way… lol
I Am . =( Still crying over it. This has devastated me. Phlegmmy Who’s
name I can never spell right is the one who got me involved in WNA and All the fun Friday activities.
I have always played Adult Acro and have always been horrid at clean but he always made me
feel welcome and Have a good time even though I was mostly voted off the island first. This is
definately Sad But I am Now going to remember all the good things and fun time we had. He def
has given alot to this acro community and will never be forgotten. RIP My Friend Phlegmmy
Janie, Your post about the *void* in you’re feeling exemplifies everything p
stood for to me.
If there was a void in our lives, Paul filled it. If we were alone, p took it upon himself to not only
make himself available, but to DO something with you – play a card game or chat on the phone…
If you were hurting, he was there to hold your hand, even if it was only virtually. If you were grieving,
p had just the right words. If he saw something that was wrong, he’d try to right it. When he saw
someone being mistreated, he’d treat them right.
He was a man of passion, a true gentleman, and a friend through and through.
It makes me sick that I’ve been afk and hadn’t spoken to him for months, and that I’ll never
have the chance to say goodbye. Who is going to fill our voids now?
When I first started to play at AcroChallenge, I was very annoyed at someone.
He would park his acroname in the lobby all day advertising his business. Easy advertising,
cheap advertising. At the time, I didn’t say anything to anyone, but I thought it was terribly nervy.
What Acroname was that? http://www.WednesdayNightAcro.org. After I had been here a while,
I found out the truth, and laughed and laughed…and when I told Phlegmmy, he laughed, too.
Our Batman. He wasn’t just Batman because he could contact Michael and ask him to get AC
going again. He was Batman because he did what he could to protect the residents of
AcroChallengeland from the bad guys. Whoever the bad guys were. For me…it was a snert who
had been bothering me. Phlegmmy PMd me, and asked if I would like him to get Michael involved.
I turned him down, but knew that nobody else here could or would make that offer.
Phlegmmy wasn’t like anyone else. He was one of a kind.
I was proud of the fact that he was my friend. It made me feel good about myself to know that he
liked me. That’s how much I thought of him.
Yo, I wish Phlegmmy was still around to hear that. I think he’d appreciate it. He didn’t want anyone
to enable you, but really, he always wanted the best for you. You’re young, you’re good-looking,
you’re smart, and you have a great personality. You could do anything, but it’s work.
In Phlegmmy’s memory, make yourself into the best Craig you can be.
Janie, Rainy and Lucky—well-put. Sigh. How terrible this is. How terrible, terrible, terrible.
Such a loss for all of us. What will we do without him!
It’s still surreal to me… Phlegmmy? Gone? Noooooo!!!!! It can’t be.
Paul was one of a very few number of people that truely had my respect and admiration.
I looked up to him. He made the world a better place for those fortunate enough to know him.
He had strong moral convictions, and he stuck to them. He was always in tune with those
around him, and had a knack of saying just the right thing at just the right time. He seemed to
thrive on helping those in need and he always made us laugh. A truely special gift has been taken
from us, and the world will never be the same.
For Phlegmmy and all of those acro players and others who have left us….
This song says more than any words can say 🙂 At least in my heart.
This is incredibly sad news. I didn’t know P as well as the rest of you,
but it was evident from his posts and his relationships within the acro community that he was a
smart, classy, empathetic, fair, and loved individual. I’m sorry to everyone who was close with him
and all who are suffering as a result of this loss.
Sad to hear of Phlegm’s passing. After talking to him one day in the lobby,
I believe we possibly crossed paths in our jobs. He was a pleasant man.
Sad to hear this, RIP Phlegmmy. Your Canadian presence will be missed
I am so saddened to hear of Plegmmy’s passing. All these comments are
a true testament to the type of person he was. It also reminds us of the importance of telling
people you love how you feel, while you are still blessed with having them in your life.
To all my (((acro friends))).
I always teased you my friend with these words:
“P who is older than me!”
Your birthday was exactly two weeks to the day before mine.
I will miss you my friend!
I just now read Janie’s email and wondered what was up. Came to the
message board and I’m in shock. I, like some others here, had no idea P was even sick.
My heart is heavy as he was truly one of the good guys. When I think of P, above anything else,
I think of integrity.
I knew him back in the Acrophobia days and was delighted to run into him here in AC after
all those years.
We lost a good one and I’m heartbroken.
(((( P ))))
What can I say about how much I appreciate all of your expressions of
sympathy… I love seeing that he was so loved and so respected by our community.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart, friends. 🙂
You may be familiar with this poem/hymn. A soloist at the church where I work called on Tuesday
to say that he wanted to sing this hymn on Sunday. I wasn’t familiar with it, so out of curiosity I went
online to find it and like the lyrics. On Wednesday when you shared the news of Paul’s passing it
came to mind. I hope it isn’t presumptuous of me. I hope you find that ‘infinite calm’,
Seated one day at the organ,
I was weary and ill at ease,
And my fingers wandered idly
Over the noisy keys.
I know not what I was playing,
Or what I was dreaming then;
But I struck one chord of music,
Like the sound of a great Amen.
It flooded the crimson twilight,
Like the close of an angel’s psalm,
And it lay on my fevered spirit
With a touch of infinite calm.
It quieted pain and sorrow,
Like love overcoming strife;
It seemed the harmonious echo
From our discordant life.
It linked all perplexèd meanings
Into one perfect peace,
And trembled away into silence
As if it were loth to cease.
I have sought, but I seek it vainly,
That one lost chord divine,
Which came from the soul of the organ,
And entered into mine.
It may be that death’s bright angel
Will speak in that chord again,
It may be that only in Heav’n
I shall hear that grand Amen.